7 Ways Easter Inspired Me to Teach Self-Regulation

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Did you and your kids dye Easter Eggs this month?  At my house, coloring eggs took a detour.  As a mother who has been homeschooling on the side since the preschool days, I am continually developing the skill of integrating fun with a lesson…..all under the radar. I hope.  Our Easter traditions were no exception this year.

Many times I have been left staring at the left over egg dye feeling like there should be more I could do with it.  Every year I dump the left over dye down the drain, feeling hollow and wishing I could be one of those cool moms who has a use for everything.  This year was my year to be the cool mom!  Well, for Easter anyway….

Recently, I was talking to another mom about that infamous activity where you dye the white flower.  As part of our conversation I had pulled out my book of 365 Days of Science experiments from Usborne.  It talked about all the different ways you could expand the concept using other items.  As I looked at the left-over dye this year I remembered our conversation…..and an idea was birthed!  We were coloring our eggs outside, so I ran straight into the house and grabbed the white rice!  I spooned the white rice into each container of dye.

You need to let the rice soak for at least one hour to ensure the dye is fully absorbed into it.  Then, we used a metal strainer lined with paper towels (or a disposable shop cloth, or several real cloths that you don’t care about if you want to be environmentally friendly) to drain the water off the rice.  Do not rinse!  After a fair amount of water had been drained (towel was soaked) we transferred it to a new paper towel on a surface that would not stain.  I used a baking dish.  You could use disposable plates that are super absorbent if you wanted.  Being outside allowed the rice to dry in a few hours.  If you do this inside, you might need to let the rice dry at least overnight, or maybe even wait 24 hours if you did not get most of the water off.  After the rice is dry, you can store in separate containers by color or mix it all together to make confetti. See the second lesson below before mixing the colors together.

Self-Regulation Lessons from the Process:

Several lessons in self-regulation are taught simply through the process of making the rice.  Children must first listen to the instructions and follow through on them over a significant span of time.  Second, children must focus on using their fine motor skills to prevent a mess.  Depending on the age of the child or children completing this activity they many need several reminders at each step in the process.  If a child completing the activity specifically struggles with fine motor skills and listening, make sure you kneel to their level and make good eye contact.  Ask for understanding and repeat the instructions if needed.  This needs to be a positive experience.  If the child struggles to comprehend the instructions, verbally reinforce that you want to make sure they understand what you are saying so they can have lots of fun.  Letting a child know you want them to have fun can be a good motivator for listening well.  Last, they must learn to be patient in waiting for their results and learn that not every good thing is instantaneous.

Self-Regulation of 7 Different Emotions Lesson:

Once your rice is dry and sorted into containers you are ready to have a hands-on activity for teaching emotional regulation.  I use 8-ounce mason jars to store my rice.  I made half a cup of seven different colors: black, blue, green, pink, purple, red, and yellow.  The glass mason jars and quantity help all the kids in my therapy groups see the activity clearly.  At home, you may not need so much.  A quarter of a cup may be sufficient since you can all sit around the same, smaller table.

Next, I take a story that mentions several emotions.  My current favorite is The Terrible Thing that Happened.  As I read the story to the kids, I put one scoop of each rice emotion into a repurposed spaghetti sauce jar or a larger mason jar.  Black is for fear. Blue is for sad. Green is for calm (or sickness if the story calls for it). Pink is for love. Purple is for worry. Red is for anger. Yellow is for happy.  By the end of the story the repurposed jar is filled with several different colors.  I make sure to mix it up really well.  Then I talk with the kids about the experience.  After they have time to give me their interpretation of the lesson, I make sure to transition into a discussion about how sometimes we can feel several emotions at the same time and that it can be confusing when they are all mixed up.

Next, I read The Color Monster book, which talks about how we can separate out our emotions and, ironically, put them into different jars.  I ask the kids to look at the jar and tell me if they think they could separate out all the emotions we put into the jar.  After I give them a chance to share their thoughts I make sure we have covered a conversation on how difficult it can be to separate our emotions sometimes, reinforcing that it is possible though if we use our coping skills.  Typically, I have already completed a lesson on coping skills with my groups, or someone else has if we are working in teams.  If you need suggestions for coping skills you can start with deep breathing, taking a break, listening to music, reading, take a nap, journaling, etc.  Something that tends to be more unique to my coping skills set for children is doing activities that help kids naturally put pressure on their joints, such as jumping jacks, jumping with a two foot take off, hopping on one foot, push-ups, pull-ups, climbing stairs, or simply short distance sprints.

I would demonstrate that you can separate out the emotions.  Do not give yourself a headache though!  After you have demonstrated with a small amount of rice, leave the rest as confetti or combine all of it to make a sensory activity that could be used as an activity to help your child or children calm down when they are feeling intense emotion.  Many times it is soothing to simply run your hand through a container of rice while you think about what you are feeling or the situation upseting you.

Happy crafting and teaching!

Modifications:  If you do not want to use rice then you can use appropriate colored poms, beads, painted bean bag filler, actually confetti paper in the appropriate colors (hole punch your own colored paper as a fine motor activity for your kids), etc.  For the core of my lesson plan I did not use Easter egg dye.  Instead, I used your standard food dye to make the custom colors I wanted.


Author: therapeuticjava

Jessica is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Registered Play Therapist who works with women and children to address attachment breach and the effects of traumatic life experiences. Jessica is passionate about help others. This includes providing tools that can be used at home to support parents in their journey to raise healthy, joyful children. Jessica also strives to provide content that helps parents know they are not alone in the often challenging road called parenthood. Jessica's experience also includes helping women and children who have been marginalized obtain resources they need to healthy and supported in their community. To learn more about Jessica's counseling practice go to www.comeasyouarecounseling.net.

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